Thursday, November 5, 2009

9 Months Old Today...


Ellie was placed in our arms 4 weeks ago. Where does time go? A month ago we we're laying on the floor for tummy time in the hotel with Ellie. Ellie was cooing, da da everything & swimming on her stomach, which it was very cute to see her swim like a fish! And she was also doing an upside down "V" stand, and I knew at that moment we would be approaching several milestones sooner than later. Ellie has no teeth yet! She is teething off & on, which teething could take several weeks or months. Woohoo..Fun times!!! After home a week, Ellie started to do a reverse crawl for a week or so, then she started to crawl forward, then she started to pull herself up on furniture, toys & people. On Halloween, she was standing with both of her legs straight on the back of her bumbu seat, then a couple days later, she was standing with both of her legs straight again on her walking & musical toy in a shock look "Deer in head lights look"... it was like "what do I do now??" ....oh I thought... I think my little monkey has arrived, look out Beatrice & Fergie, Ellie is about to rock your world!

Ellie's first week home was rough for all three of us. Trying to flip the 12 hour time change was difficult at times, but I kept thinking "this is not going to last forever"... THANK GOD! We did get her flip around in about week, and it wasn't an easy task trying to kept her awake for few of those first few days. But we did it!! Then the next task was getting her on a schedule! She adjusted to a schedule quickly, and the first few nights I did not think I would be able to achieve a TRUE bedtime time in a short period, but guess what?? I did it! Between 6 to 7:30, she starts rubbing her eyes with a little of cranky, then 7:30 its time for dinner, then by 8pm, she is in bed! A child that comes from orphanage environment likes a schedule, and she will let you know it when you're off her schedule and that includes playtime!

Ellie and I are starting to bond which I know takes time, but these past weeks I've felt like Ellie's babysitter not her mom. And this is very normal to have these feelings. I thank God I have a wonderful support system that has been through international adoption that has experience these feelings, and understands attachment issues. Ellie is an awesome baby, and I'm not saying that because she is mine:)) Ellie is still waking up crying few times a night. I know this not normal, she is grieving. So, I will continue my quest to identify these attachment issues, and by having a schedule for Ellie, she will build a trust with us. Bonding does not happen overnight, it takes time.

Here's a few pictures of Ellie's milestones... Ellie standing for the first time and her favorite time..."Bath time" yay! And of course, Beatrice on guard!!!

Beatrice stole someone's sock...
Beatrice sneaking her kisses in...
I will kept a eye on Ellie for you...

I put Ellie on the rug to watch her crawl to her bath...it's too cute! I hope this pays off in a couple of years! And look at my baby standing for the 1st time...just too sweet!

4 comments:

Melissa said...

Happy Nine Months Ms. Ellie!! Your friend Ella is right behind you tomorrow :) I love the little butt shot lol. You are very brave letting her crawl butt naked on the floor. Tim tried that with Ella and she peed on him lol.

QingLu Mama said...

Happy nine months...time does go fast! Ellie is just a cutie pie and looks like she is adjusting so very well!
And you know these feelings you have are completly normal... healthy even? Bonding takes time on both sides and its great you can see where in the process you are and what you need to do to bridge that. I remember being home with Simone 2-3 months and thinking I was finally feeling like "mom".
Love all of the pics, so very cute!

Beth said...

Hi Debbie,

We are staying at The Howard Plaza hotel. I'm not familiar with the hotel you stayed at so I can't really tell you where it is in relation to that. I can tell you we're about a block or so from the SOGO department store. Let me know if you want more information on the Howard, I'd be happy to give it to you!!

Beth
bethsuan@hotmail.com

Journey to our baby said...

Wow, 9 months. We came home a week before you with Julianna from Taiwan. I can understand what you are saying with the bonding, it takes time and that was hard for me in the beginning. Ellie is such a cutie!

Suzy & Ryan (JOH Prog 3)